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PostSubject: Dealing with 3 year old tantrums   Dealing with 3 year old tantrums EmptySun Jul 08, 2012 3:14 am

How do you deal with them in your house? We are finding no one set method works for all like these parenting shows lead you to believe!
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PostSubject: Re: Dealing with 3 year old tantrums   Dealing with 3 year old tantrums EmptySun Jul 08, 2012 8:28 am

Obviously no suggestions from my own experience but my little bro is a nightmare for getting out of hand with tantrums.

What my step-mum does is when Luke is starting to get aggravated over something and she sees that he's starting to get worked up, she sends him to his room (or to his punch bag in the garden now he's older).

She doesn't treat it as punishment. She simply tells him that she can see he's getting angry and he needs to go to his room to calm down/go outside to let off steam.

It's shown Luke that it's ok to feel strong emotions but there's ways of dealing with them. He's 7 now and it still works wonders. I think it works well for Luke because she catches him before he escalates into blind tantrum mode.

Might be worth trying?
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PostSubject: Re: Dealing with 3 year old tantrums   Dealing with 3 year old tantrums EmptyTue Jul 10, 2012 7:34 pm

That could work.. We shall have to give it a go but I'm
Not so sure that at Noah's age he would understand its ok to hot that and not other people, I was going to take Noah to a martial arts class but so many people have said to wait until he's older as he won't understand that he can't do it out of class.
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PostSubject: Re: Dealing with 3 year old tantrums   Dealing with 3 year old tantrums EmptyTue Jul 10, 2012 10:44 pm

As I said. Luke had a punch bag introduced once he was older and able to understand that he takes anger and frustration out on that and nothing else.

The going to his bedroom and calming down there is easier to understand for them. It's already a place for relaxing and doesn't have the things that are likely to cause irritation. It gives them time to themselves to calm down and when they're ready they come back down stairs.

Obviously it's important to make sure it's not treated like a punishment otherwise that could defeat the object of using the room for a little quiet time.

I hope this helps. Smile
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PostSubject: Re: Dealing with 3 year old tantrums   Dealing with 3 year old tantrums EmptyMon Dec 17, 2012 11:11 am

Found with Tom (and again with Amber) that choosing your battles is important for your sanity and for the sake of the little devils listening. Set too many nos and they just won't listen because you become background noise. I find best way to tell if it's worth fighting about is whether or not it'll hurt anyone. Example if child decides to push the same toy of a table over and over again it's not worth it. There's no diff between a broken toy and a toy that's taken off them except they learn more quickly from one than the other. If the kid decides to throw said toy at someone then of course this needs correcting.

Be persistent. If you choose a way to deal with things then stick by it. Never ever never give in because the next thing you try will take longer to have an impact. This is because they realise if they push hard enough they can get what they want. Give a method of dealing with things about 2 whole weeks of trying. That gives it a good run especially as toddlers can be persistent little things.

When it comes to tantrums themselves. Ignore it. If you need to step away for a breather then do so just remember that toddlers throw fits because they don't get that they can't have everything they want and lets face it, none of us really like being told no. By not interacting with them when they're kicking, screaming, holding breath, the tantrums won't last as long even if the first few times feel like forever.
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PostSubject: Re: Dealing with 3 year old tantrums   Dealing with 3 year old tantrums EmptyThu Jan 03, 2013 9:33 am

This is something i have been through with my child over the years.I dont know about 3 year old tamptrims but my daugter still throws a tamptrim when she wants to.It is mainly if she doesnt get her own way especially in the super market while we are out shopping.Like if i dont buy her nothing she will make a show of me while everyone is looking it is so embarrising i deal with this by just walking away from her till she calms down Smile
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