Some of the things teenagers say and do make us want to pull our hair out, throw them off a balcony, run away to Tahiti or do something REALLY crazy! But it helps to talk it all out- What steps do you take to ensure not "killing" your offspring? Do you have codes set up? For me, I tell my 16 year old she needs to get off my radar- She knows this is me at my snapping point and she needs to get to her room or out of my house for a bit until I calm down. Sometimes, however, if she's spoiling for a fight, she ignores all warnings and just keeps going. No one ever said teenagers make the best decisions!